My Husband Wants Me to Bugger Him with a Strap-On ??!?!!



Dear Couch,

Ok, so my husband of a few years tells me the other night that he wants to buy some dildos so that I can use one on him. He then suggests that if this goes well, he wants me to fuck him with a strap on. He hasn't ever shown interest in this before, nor has he shown an interest in gay porn or the like, but now that he has mentioned it, I keep wondering about his persuasion. Is it possible that he might be gay or even bi? He tells me no when I ask but clearly, he would be concerned about telling me that. I know all about the prostate pleasure and have no problem with sex that's 'out of the ordinary' I just want to know if this is common for straight men. Thank you so much everyone!!

Signed,
wondering2151


Dear Wondering...,

Your husband wants you to bugger him with a dildo and you're asking us if he's gay? Are we getting this right? We're not missing anything right, like disco balls in the bedroom, or him wearing your bloomers on his head with a male blow-up-doll he calls Big Bobby?

Just teasing. In our opinion, by what you describe, your relatively new husband is inviting you to explore areas of his sexuality he would never dare with someone he didn't trust. As you mention in your question, men do have that prostate gland which is easily accessible from their bung-holes, and it is not out of the realm of normalcy to want to explore it. If anything, you should feel very comfortable with your relationship if your husband feels at ease in discussing these sexual matters with you. So allow us to explain the sexual stimulation issues first then recommend some hardware.

All About My Penis: my prostate describes one person's view of his sexual play regarding his prostate. You should understand that the prostate and the area around it are very involved with the process of a man's orgasm, as this site explains quite well. Thus stimulating the male prostate during and up to his orgasm can have an extremely arousing affect. To do this, just insert a finger (gently) in the man's bung-hole, facing him and curve your finger up slightly. There! You're caressing his male g-spot! Interestingly enough, this is exactly the same finger placement one would take to stimulate the female g-spot (insertion through the vagina though, of course).

What you and your hubby may not be aware of is the option of the 'butt plug'. Smaller than a dildo, their shape is intended to penetrate just far enough to reach the prostate area. Most of these can be used with your standard strap-on dildo harness so you won't have to ream your husband up to his teeth, just far enough to masterfully stim his inner pleasure spot.

Finally, let us remind you that if your husband was secretly gay, he wouldn't be asking you to bugger him. He would be at your local bathhouse letting Big Rob (yes, your harmless local milk man) have access to his backdoor. So be happy your Hubby feels close enough to you to do this.





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